The Sacred Both/And

You can be grateful and grieving.
Excited and scared.
Hopeful and heavy.

You can laugh with a lump in your throat.
Dance with tears in your eyes.
Hold joy in one palm and heartbreak in the other.

This doesn’t mean you’re confused.
Or broken.
Or “not healed enough.”

It means you’re alive.
Fully.
Tenderly.
Unapologetically alive.

The Myth of Either/Or

There was a time when I thought healing had to be clean.
That the tears had to stop before the joy could start.
That I had to pick a lane. Choose a side. Make it make sense.

But healing has never asked me to choose.
It has only ever asked me to feel.
To stay long enough to witness what I would usually rush past.

There is wisdom in the contradiction.
There is clarity in the chaos.
There is divinity in the duality.

Letting It All Be Sacred

There are days I feel a win and grieve what it cost me.
There are moments I smile and still feel afraid.
There are seasons where my softness and my strength
sit side by side in the same breath.

And I’ve learned not to make it mean something bad.
Not to call it a setback.
Not to rush to “fix” it.

Just because I’m feeling everything
doesn’t mean I’ve lost my way.
It means I’ve stopped abandoning myself.

You’re Not Too Much For This Moment

Let that land.
You’re not too sensitive.
Not too complex.
Not too emotional.
You are multilingual in emotion.
Fluent in the language of nuance.
Capable of holding joy and pain without losing yourself.

There is power in your bothness.
There is medicine in your mess.
There is freedom in not choosing between who you’ve been
and who you’re becoming.

Your Mantra

Let it echo in the body:

I am allowed to feel it all.
Even the contradictions.
Especially the contradictions.
That’s what makes me whole.

The Remembering

So if today you feel heavy and hopeful,
scared and committed,
raw and radiant—
you are not doing it wrong.
You are doing it real.

This is what becoming looks like.
Not one clean emotion at a time.
But a symphony of truths rising together.

You don’t have to simplify your soul to be worthy of peace.
You don’t have to hide your tears to earn your joy.
You get to be both.
And you’re still whole.

🕊️ What emotion have you been trying to push away because it didn’t “match” the rest?

Let it speak in the comments—
the ache, the joy, the contradiction that still deserves your softness.
You don’t have to choose between them.
You just have to stay with you.

🌿 I share weekly reflections like this — essays, voice notes, and healing rhythms
for the ones who feel deeply, heal slowly, and still choose to stay soft.

🌀 This space is for the ones learning to live their healing —
not perfectly, but honestly.
Not in either/or — but in and.